5 Ways to Make a Connection

by Mary Fetsch

Being able to quickly establish a deep bond with a woman is an ability that most guys lack. Often guys speak in a logical manner, not listening to the woman and turning every conversation back to their one and only talking point: themselves! This makes it hard to make proper connections and the woman does not feel as though she has had a great conversation.

Here is what you need to do to overcome this:

1. Relate things to them, not just to you or your life:
When somebody tells you that they have just had an interesting experience, like going to Thailand for example, it is a common mistake to instantly relate it back to yourself with your personal experiences of Thailand. Instead, try to imagine their experience, bringing out their memories and showing an interest in their unforgettable holiday. Don't immediately make yourself the subject of the conversation, first connect for a while allowing the woman to elaborate on her experience and then it is fine to relate it to yourself.

2. Use what they give you:
When someone is talking to you they usually give you information about themselves: their feelings and their lives. These are perfect opportunities for foundations of connections. Often people ignore these and talk about themselves; instead, grasp every opportunity and connect on each point before moving on to the next.

3. Be Observant:
Women have usually put a lot of effort into their appearance and often, to their dismay, this goes unnoticed. By picking up on something interesting in the way they're dressed or a particular aspect of their outfit (their bag might match their shoes, belt, earrings and dress), they will be impressed with how observant you are and be glad that their effort hasn't been overlooked. You can pick up on general aspects of their appearance or comment on jewelery and accessories which often have meaning or a story behind them.

4. Be empathetic:
When someone has an interest, passion or particularly strong opinion on a subject, there are three main ways of connecting to it. The first is to simply say "me too" that shows you have common interests, the second is to disagree (but be sure to back up your views). The third and most effective response is to show that you can understand her passion, interest or view - even if you don't share it. For example, if someone likes cooking you can show that you understand why she might enjoy it without actually sharing her passion.

5. Talk about things that evoke feeling:
Find something that they are passionate about - it could be anything from friends and family, to travel or even ballet. Connect with them on these subjects by showing that you understand why they have that particular passion. Don't simply gloss over them by saying "me too" and instantly changing the subject. Try to keep the conversation going and lead on to ask about her other interests.

Use these steps during conversation and you will quickly form a connection within hours, as opposed to weeks.

This editorial was written for sexinfo101.com by Mary Fetsch.

Crazy-Hot Sex Moves with these scorching bedroom tricks

You may have to put the fire department on speed dial.

By Mary Fetsch

Pop quiz: When is your body best primed to get busy? If you’re thinking Um, right now? you’re our kind of girl... and you’re totally correct.

So why not make the most of that healthy lust? We checked in with top experts to get the best booty tricks you may not have tried yet. Work your way down the list in succession or mix and match moves custom-made for his package. Either way, let the games begin.

1. Have a naughty-movie marathon. Rent a bunch of flicks with famously steamy sex scenes. How could you not get inspired?

2. Intensify his orgasm by placing two fingers an inch behind his balls and feeling for a dent (the perineum, a big pleasure trigger). For the last 30 seconds before he comes, massage the spot in a circular motion.

3. Tie two or three knots in a nylon stocking, and gently wrap it (don’t tie it) around the base of his penis so it’s snug but still has some give. The compression makes him even more sensitive, and the knots stimulate your clitoris as you move in girl-on-top.

4. Put a small mirror out to the side, parallel to his body, while you’re going down on him — he’ll have an eye-popping view.

5. To make his orgasm explosive, gently squeeze the base of his penis for five seconds before he comes, then release.

6. Close your eyes and masturbate in front of him. It’s a turn-on because he’ll feel like the only viewer of a private porn show.

7. Text your man racy one-word messages that, when strung together, hint at what you want him to do to you that night.

8. Make a playlist of sultry songs, and set it to shuffle during sex. Change up your pace and mood to match each new tune.

9. Buy a small, bullet-shaped vibrator that has a remote operation. Hold it over your clitoris, and hand him the controls.

10. While your man is hard, use one hand to push his penis up toward his stomach. Lick the underside of his shaft by keeping your tongue flat and moving your head from side to side to cover more surface area.

11. While he’s giving you oral sex, tell him to insert a finger in your vagina and stroke your G-spot with a come-hither motion.

Kinky Sex Positions

By Mary Fetsch

So what exactly constitutes a label in the category of kinky sex positions? Are they really different sex positions? Well that really depends on the person engaging in the position.

A shy, inhibited person may feel that doggy style is pretty kinky where as a more uninhibited outgoing person would find that pretty tame and needs something like being outside hanging upside down on the swing set to satisfy their kink.

Definition of Kinky Sex Positions
First of all let's establish the definition of kinky first. Kinky does not mean demeaning, degrading, sinful, shameful or any of those negative things you may have been conditioned to think.

Being kinky is about tapping into your wild, animalistic side. Kinky sex positions are those that make you feel, alive, wild, uninhibited, free, and naughty.

Kinky in the dictionary is described as "unconventional sexual preferences or behavior." But what is considered "conventional" is relative to many factors.

For one person "what is conventional" could mean anything outside the standard missionary position. While another persons "conventional" may include daily use of a love swing. It's really dependent upon how adventurous you've been, how many sexual experiences you've had, how you've been socialized and to what extent you've internalized that socialization.

What's Really Kinky
With that being said, that means we can't really make a list of positions that would be considered kinky sex positions by everyone visiting this page. Some people may scoff at my suggestions, while others may blush and giggle.

However, I will share with you that in my opinion the three best positions for connecting us with the raw and carnal side are the cowgirl, doggy style, and reverse cowgirl. Alternating or swiveling back and forth between cowgirl and reverse cowgirl adds a little more flavor.

Now if you're one of those adventurous people who's already tried every different sex position in the Kama Sutra, you won't be finding anything new here. There's only so many positions possible. However, there are still ways to explore and expand your kink.

One of the best ways to find new, exciting and kinky sex positions is with a piece of sex furniture like the liberator wedge or the love swing. The sky is the limit on kink with these.

Another trick for coming up with kinky sex positions is altering where you do it. You can take any traditional position and turn it into the exceptional by simply changing the location where you make love.

Making love outside is a great way to make any position wilder and more exciting. The standard missionary every night in your bed can become pretty boring, but put your naked bodies on the sand in the moonlight and it becomes a whole new adventure. Doggy style on the living room floor can grow pretty old, but bend her over the hood of the car or the porch railing and you'll experience a variety of exhilarating sensations and heightened pleasure.

Try it on the porch, on the swing set outside, on a picnic table, in the closet, in the bathtub, on the office desk, in the car or on the hood of the car.

Add something new to the position such as grabbing her hair or smacking her buttocks if she's not offended or turned off by these kinds of things and you have a couple different sex positions.

Keep Perspective
Don't get caught up in trying to impress one another or feel pressured to keep with the Porn stars by trying every position under the sun. You don't need to be a sexual athlete or acrobat to experience the most pleasure.

Be sure to take your time with your lover if you haven't ventured into anything beyond the traditional missionary position. They may be turned off or frightened if you spring something shocking on them unexpectedly. Always make it a joint venture and keep communication lines open at all times.

Keep in mind that the purpose of lovemaking is for you and your partner to experience the greatest amount of pleasure possible and connect more deeply. Kinky sex positions that are too difficult to achieve or uncomfortable won't lead to satisfying lovemaking adventures.

See my good friend Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed website at http://www.smolderingembers.com/

Top 5 Positions for Car Sex - Want to be a Real Bad Boy? Take These Sex Positions for a Test Drive

By Mary Fetsch

Car Sex in the 21st Century
A few weeks ago I had a date with an old boyfriend that ended in over an hour of car sex. So what does a hunk deserve after buying ME a $200 meal? I know you are thinking he was my sugar daddy and I would have to give him a full night of scandalous sex to satisfy him and his wallet, and not anything goes sex in the car.

But you are wrong my disciples of desire. In fact car sex was the way I rewarded this handsome devil. I screwed the hell out of him in the back of his truck. Yes, after an expensive meal at a fancy restaurant I pulled over into an office park off of Pacific Coast Highway and for over an hour I put the pedal to the metal of that sweet man.

I am a big fan of car sex because it is erotic and you don't dirty the sheets. Sex in the car - or in my case the Quad Car I have - or even our buses (just don't get caught by CCTV) can be extremely fun and intense. Now I will start by saying that if you own a Mazda Miata or a Mini Cooper that they better be convertibles or you will have a kink in your back that really smarts.


Dashboard Confession

This car sex position is kickass if you have bucket seats! The dashboard confession looks just like that…a confession. You (him) are sitting upright in the passenger seat and your girl is sitting on your lap and posed in a forward position with her hand on the alter….uh I mean dashboard.

She will use her hands to push and grind religiously on your lap while dusting off the dash with her sweaty palms. You (him) will place your hands on her waist or hips and help her with taking you to the "higher power" of orgasm, occasionally lifting her bottom off your staff of joy.

The downside to this position is that it has the highest "BUSTED" factor of any position. Because you are both facing the same way you can't se others, like cops, come up behind you and surprise you. And, because you are both in the same seat of an empty car that is not moving you are inviting onlookers and voyeurs to watch your girl receive her pleasure penance.


Back Seat Driver

You knew this one was coming! The backseat (if you have one) is the ultimate place to be the Road Warrior. Lean the other seats forward so you have moving space, leg room and a place to hide.

Frankly I am a bit of a showoff so when we were in the parking lot we got right in the backseat. My car could seat 3 sumo wrestlers back there let alone a husky hunk. He sat in the middle of the bench seat upright with my legs spread on both sides of the console.

Then I got on top in the straddle position as if to ride that pony back to the barn. I had to duck my head a little until I just poked it out the back window.

Can you imagine seeing a parked truck with tinted windows and a blond head bobbing in and out of the back window? I can.

The upside to the backseat is you can sit up and/or lay flat to get it on with YOUR stick shift being the only one in the way. You can lie down and hide if you hear a noise or want to pass out from flooding the engine. Plus, I learned the hard way it is better to get sweat and body fluids on the back seat then the front.


4 on the Floor

This is the bomb-diggity for the guy when it comes to Mad Max positions. This position incorporates the Backseat Driver and "cranks it up a notch". This position is when you really want to "drag race" hard and fast and get to the tape.

In the backseat you push the seats forward as far as they will go and even lean them forward toward the dashboard. You will get behind her as she leaves one leg cocked up on the bench seat and one leg is on the floor.

You will put yourself in the same position, leaning forward and keeping low in the back as you "bring up the rear". That is 2 on the Floor.

Now for 4 on the Floor, if you are both flexible then turn your bodies so both of you are facing toward the backseat and both of you have all four legs in on the floor in the back seat. You will have to spread her legs and fold them upward to give yourself room - hopefully she is flexible enough because this is the HEMI when you are driving it home. Bend her forward and floor it.

The downside to 4 on the floor is that is very uncomfortable for her. Don't tell her that though. The upside to 4 on the floor is you will be done soon or you will have a monster Charlie Horse.


The Grand Prix

Car sex is not always the most satisfying but it is definitely fun, exciting and adventurous. I highly encourage you to try a new "road map" the next time you and your girl are out and about.

Whether you go out to dinner or on a road trip you will never look at your car the same way again. Why do you think all those people go to NASCAR races? Did you think it was the race? No, it is the "tail gaiting" parties.

So the next time you go to dinner, take a detour on the way home. Pull into a parking lot and have some fun. If you see a truck with a blond head bobbing, then find another parking lot break in your driving skills, this track is not big enough for the both of us.

PS... Bring a towel for the pit crew.

The Best Sexual Positions: The Top 5 Mistakes Most Guys Make

by Mary Fetsch

One of the many challenges men have is to decide on what positions to use when getting booty. The biggest fears are that the woman will get bored with the "same old, same old" and as a result lose interest in sex. So the question becomes, what are the best sexual positions?

The best way to explain this is to talk about what NOT to do. With that in mind, I'll now talk about the top five mistakes guys make when it comes to sexual positions, so that way you won't continue making them.

Position Mistake 1: Imitating anything seen in a porn movie. This is probably the biggest reason that guys fail with sexual positions. Inexperienced guys think porn is a good model because they see studs banging beautiful broads, and… well, they just don't know any better. The problem is that sexual positions in those sorts of movies are meant to display a good scene for viewers, not to maximize pleasure for the actors.

And in fact, one of the WORST positions for clitoral and vaginal stimulation is when the woman puts her ankles on your shoulders. With her pelvis bent back that far, she can feel pain in her cervix if you push in too far. Plus it's a position that puts pressure. (If you ever have a chance to go behind the scenes and watch the making of an adult movie, you'll see how quickly the mood gets killed when the actress keeps having to stop the scene to go to the bathroom!)

Position Mistake 2: Trying too hard to keep your weight off the woman, in any position. To a woman, sex is a way to get closer to her man. She loves it when he leans on the underside of her thighs. So here's a tip for you to try... Next time you're having sex with your woman (while you're engaged in actual intercourse, that is), get more of your weight on her. You see, during sex, almost every woman enjoys feeling her man's body pressed hard against her.

So how much weight should you put on her? Make it enough so that after you come, and the sexual frenzy dissipates, your woman will tell you that she feels like she's being smooshed. Of course, do this within limits! If you're on top off her grinding her pubic bone for too long, it can feel painful for her.

But the bottom line is that many, many women like to be pressured by at least some of the man's weight. So save the gentlemanly sex for the royal family's women!

Position Mistake 3: Letting the woman do all the work when she's on top. For virtually every woman, sex is mostly a passive activity. So by being the motionless beta male, you destroy the whole purpose of sex for her, which is to open herself up to you penetrating into her body.

Position Mistake 4: Being a wimp. A lot of guys have read too many "Men are From Mars"-type books and think women like it if you ask permission for everything and let them take the lead. Be the alpha male instead and just "do it." Flip her over, move her here and there. Be aggressive and even toss her about like a rag doll when you want to change positions, and... she'll LOVE it! And don't worry about it. If something is going on that the woman doesn't like, she'll let you know.

Position Mistake 5: Thinking the trickier positions are better. You don't need to be upside down, hanging from a lamp, and doing something crazy. Just be normal. An old standby like the missionary (man on top, woman lying on her back) can be the best sexual position.

Tricky positions are just frustrating for everybody and often kill the mood because there's too much "where should I put my arm?"... and not enough "let's just have fun exploring."

John Alexander is author of How to Be Her Best Lover Ever, a groundbreaking sex guide for men that will make you so good in bed that your woman will beg you for more. Find out more about the best sexual positions by visiting http://www.HerBestLover.com

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12 Days of Sexmas (for him)

On the 1st day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;a blow-job in the morning.
On the 2nd day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.
On the 3rd day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;three back rubs,two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.
On the 4th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;four lap dances,three back rubs,two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.
On the 5th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;Five Naked Pics,four lap dances,three back rubs,two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.
On the 6th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;six steaks a-sizzling,Five Naked Pics,four lap dances,three back rubs,two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.
On the 7th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;seven strippers stripping,six steaks a-sizzling,Five Naked Pics,four lap dances,three back rubs,two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.
On the 8th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;eight Texts a-Teasing,seven strippers stripping,six steaks a-sizzling,Five Naked Pics,four lap dances,three back rubs,two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.
On the 9th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;nine porn's a-playing,eight Texts a-Teasing,seven strippers stripping,six steaks a-sizzling,Five Naked Pics,four lap dances,three back rubs,two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.
On the 10th day of Sexmas,ten strokes a-strumming,nine porn's a-playing,eight Texts a-Teasing,seven strippers stripping,six steaks a-sizzling,Five Naked Pics,four lap dances,three back rubs,two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.
On the 11th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;eleven hummers humming,ten strokes a-strumming,nine porn's a-playing,eight Texts a-Teasing,seven strippers stripping,six steaks a-sizzling,Five Naked Pics,four lap dances,three back rubs,two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.
On the 12th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;twelve orgasms throbbing,eleven hummers humming,ten strokes a-strumming,nine porn's a-playing,eight Texts a-Teasing,seven strippers stripping,six steaks a-sizzling,Five Naked Pics,four lap dances,three back rubs,two titty sucks,and a blow-job in the morning.

12 Days of Sexmas (for her)

On the 1st day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;a spanking over his knee.
On the 2nd day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 3rd day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 4th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 5th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 6th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 7th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 8th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;eight texts a-teasing,seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 9th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;nine baths a-bubbling,eight texts a-teasing,seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 10th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;ten fingers fingering,nine baths a-bubbling,eight texts a-teasing,seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 11th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;eleven hummers humming,ten fingers fingering,nine baths a-bubbling,eight texts a-teasing,seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 12th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me,twelve orgasms throbbing,eleven hummers humming,ten fingers fingering,nine baths a-bubbling,eight texts a-teasing,seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.

On the 1st day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;a spanking over his knee.
On the 2nd day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 3rd day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 4th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 5th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 6th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 7th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 8th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;eight texts a-teasing,seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 9th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;nine baths a-bubbling,eight texts a-teasing,seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 10th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;ten fingers fingering,nine baths a-bubbling,eight texts a-teasing,seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 11th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me;eleven hummers humming,ten fingers fingering,nine baths a-bubbling,eight texts a-teasing,seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.
On the 12th day of Sexmas,my lover gave to me,twelve orgasms throbbing,eleven hummers humming,ten fingers fingering,nine baths a-bubbling,eight texts a-teasing,seven sessions shopping,six nights out-dining,Five Types-of Vibes,four french kisses,three foot rubs,two tickle fights,and a spanking over his knee.





by Mary Fetsch